Although I can talk “goal weights” with the best of them, my fantasy weight loss goal is actually having food be a complete non-issue. You know – like when they ask a celebrity or a chef what they ate on a “normal” day and the answer is something like:
For breakfast I had a cup of espresso and a slice of mango. Lunch was a a couple of biscuits with a chunk of really strong cheddar and a cup of tea. Dinner was grilled salmon with new potatoes and green beans from my garden and a glass of white wine.
Yeah sure – and 40 cigarettes.
I KNOW it’s not true but it’s still my fantasy to have healthy eating “just happen”.
But how do I balance that goal with my long and sordidly unbalanced history with food?
- Step One: Remove as many “diet trappings” as possible.
What does that mean? No more weighing of self? No more journalling? I guess it’s essential to decide which elements of the dieting trap are toxic and which are helpful. This is purely personal; one woman’s help is another woman’s poison.
Toxic – Interesting exercise. Turns out toxic is a state of mind.
thinking about food all the time.
ruining happy social times with thoughts of “I can’t eat that”.
tying my weight to any concept of success or failure of me as a person
behaviour that leads to guilt about eating
allowing myself to get carried away by short term results aka dieting euphoria
To sum up : negativity and obsessing of any kind.
Helpful – but only helpful if they don’t lead to the toxic stuff above
weighing and measuring ingredients and portions
How do I use those helpful tools in a non-toxic way? That’s the cruncher. I guess my question is my answer. To be non-toxic, these things have to be tools rather than obsessions. It will be a day by day assessment as to how I’m using them – or avoiding them, for that matter.
So here’s the plan:
For the first 3 weeks, I’m going to put away the weighing and measuring of food and trust what I’ve learned over the past 3 years about good ingredients and portion sizes.
I will weigh myself occasionally but only if it’s helpful to see if I’m not gaining. Loss is going to be difficult to assess when I’m aiming to lose less than half a pound per week. There will be no “weigh-in day” – just assuring that I’m headed in the right direction.
That’s enough to start.
EDIT 2018: Because I’ve got a nerdy tendency to record life data, I can tell you that, while the thinking was solid, the ‘plan’ didn’t work once I hit some major stresses and challenges. Actually – it did work in some ways. I have a much healthier relationship with food and my body, but I’m still looking for that perfect-for-me, non-toxic, long-term, life-friendly, dieting-free, weight management system.